Great Relationship Advice From Marilyn Monroe

Dear Patients & Friends,

Most of the fighting that men and women experience arises from the natural and necessary biological differences we have. There are simple reasons why we can't always understand each other. Knowing the wisdom of the diversity between men and women is critical in working more effectively and lovingly with each other.

As a life coach and stress management specialist, there's no doubt that the majority of men and women I mentor are having relationship difficulties - whether they're minor or major problems.

What I've discovered is that, underlying the tension between men and women who engage in disputes about how each person "should be", is an unwillingness, or an inability, to literally accept their partner, "as they are".

As Marilyn Monroe once wisely said, "I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."

The way I'm interpreting Marilyn's words is: If you can't accept all of me, then you can't have any of me.

BOOM.

Men and Women Have The Exact Same Needs

All men and women - at all times - need to feel emotionally safe and physically secure in order to be vulnerable with their partners.

If one person in an intimate relationship is not at deep peace with who they authentically are, then they're living out of integrity with themselves. Usually when a person is not truly happy within themselves, they have less patience to allow their partner to simply be who they are - the good, the bad and the ugly.

When upset with your partner, it rarely works to continue to engage in psychological dialogue. Over-reacting and over-thinking usually leads to offending others or defending yourself. Letting conflicting viewpoints "dissolve", instead of forcing "resolve", is the first step towards restoring calmer and clearer heads and hearts.

In other words, learn to relax your body and your mind (dissolve) as a disagreement is unfolding, and then practice the virtue of Curiosity. When you're calm, you can then be open to whatever your partner is telling you or showing you - without judging.

Practicing this form of relational mindfulness will allow you to develop another virtue that's fundamental to the success of any relationship: Acceptance.

Have a wonderful weekend!

True,

Dr. Mark

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